Dr. Williams, I have been pondering your statement that church buildings often become extensions of self. I think there's a whole lot of truth in that statement, unfortunately. I find myself getting very discouraged when I deal with organized religion. More than once lately I have said, "This is not what Jesus intended for the church". On the other hand I realize He created us for community. I guess I want to deal with the body of Christ and not the organized church. To me there is a BIG difference. How do I do that?
OK, well does the community or lets say God's people need a building to have community? Right here in this forum we have community and probably better community than in many churches, because in most churches its a one way conversation. Here at least there is two sharing of concepts and experience. If a church build is reaching out and serving the community, such as those that are hungry or needing shelter, that would seem to be a great reason to have a building or perhaps a school where training is going on in how to walk in ones calling or equipping the saints for the work of the ministry. BUT, when the building keeps us from helping others, then one probably should look at why?
Our motive should be out of love. But do we need a building to love and care for others? Either way in building or not building a building we get to be accountable. We are to build each other up and if that is happening while having a building, then there probably is a lot of grace.
Does one need a building to be a pastor or apostle or prophet or evangelist or even a teacher or rabbi? I grew up in a small town outside of the city of Milwaukee Wisconsin. I called the church to see how people were doing and they still believe that their way of reaching out to the community was by having a building. In their minds love was having people in for services. I suggested that when I was there, that didn't work so good and probably it still is not working good. In their lives, the building was more important than the people.
I know it happens often and that is the sad part. A building is not going to save anyone in the end, but will save on is love one for the other. I guess what I see is humorous is that people preach that all of the stuff is temporary and all for the most part agree that it is about relationships, but then go out and build buildings instead of relationships. I know they think they are building relationships, but their rules (not written rules, but how they live their lives) seem to suggest that in order to build a relationship, then one will come to their church building.
The problem with that is it becomes and excuse not to know people better. Yes they get to see people in the church building, but do they really get to know them that way? No. What it takes is being willing to walk with each other. The church had services 4 times a week. Now services are wonderful, but it is one way communication except maybe for a couple of minutes before or after the service, but that really doesn't allow for people to get to know one another. Doing things that way, keeps people from getting to know one another. A friend would be interested in what your doing not just in the church building, but in life. It's almost like people have this life in going to a church and that is separate from their family life and that is separate from their work life and maybe even separate from friends they may know from work, leading all these different lives.
To be in ministry takes a lot of time and effort and an extreme amount of focus. When one is in ministry, there really isn't much time for anything. I know that sounds terrible to say, but it takes a lot to be in ministry to do anything. Lets just take one small area of ministry which might be going to a prison. Well if they come in with the concept it is only about preaching at people, then relationships are not built. Preaching at people does not take that much time. What does take the time, is to build the relationship with people and being willing to walk with them.
So the question is, "is it about building relationships or is it about just being busy in life?" Now granted most would say its about building relationships but in all honesty if one is not spending time doing that then they really don't believe it or maybe don't know that it takes time to walk with people.
Some will allow relationships if one person always calls on the other, but if they have to call equally then the relationship falls apart. RELATIONSHIPS ARE A TWO WAY STREET. However what the church teaches by actions, is that it is a one way street in preaching at people. I don't know how to put that in a better way. What people learn from one another is by what they do. Do they take the time to walk with others or is it one sided or just when you need something? WOW that sounds more like building toxic relationships and honestly who wants that?
What does it take to be a friend of God? Well, it takes spending time with Him. Dah........ What does it take to build relationship with each other? Dah......... it takes time in a two way thing. It is the same with God as it is with people. However the perception is that having a relationship with God is a one way street and if thats all a person sees out of it, then it becomes a think where one is over the other.
Like for example, "how many people pray to God asking for stuff, instead of just spending time with God?" What God wants is for us to spend time with Him and guess what, "He will spend time with you." But if all a person sees is that its about just asking for stuff, then that is sort of the kind of relationship one probably has with others. That is how much of leadership is in the church that does not have the five fold gift ministry, which when its all one sided, misses the point of it all.
Bottom line seems to be that the better a relationship that a person has with God and people, the less the building is needed. One does not need a building to have a relationship, what one needs is a condition of the heart to have a relationship.
Just like the question in how people perceive things, "is the church a building or the body of Christ, and it is not just a verbal answer, but how one lives their lives." It is one thing to say its about building relationships and yet if the time is spent in building a building, then one really doesn't believe it is about building relationships. In a building it is always a thing where one is over the other, because one does more for the building than the other and if that happens then people are impressed by the wrong things in life.